Graham McFarland
Yes, Women Can Be Narcissists Too is the book society told you would never need. For decades, narcissism has been labeled as a male trait-dominating, egotistical, and power-hungry. But the reality is far more complex. Women can be narcissists too, and their tactics are often more insidious, emotional, and covert-leaving their victims isolated, confused, and unheard. For twenty years, I endured the emotional turmoil of two consecutive relationships with narcissistic women-women who charmed, manipulated, and controlled me while society turned a blind eye. I was told 'women can’t be narcissists,' that I was overreacting, and that I was the problem. But I wasn’t. In this raw and eye-opening book, I share my journey from denial to self-discovery, shedding light on the red flags, the gaslighting, the infidelity, and the psychological manipulation that left me questioning my reality. More importantly, I offer a roadmap to recovery-helping men recognize the signs, break free from toxic cycles, and reclaim their lives. You are not alone. You are not imagining it. And most importantly, you are not powerless. This book will empower you to: • Recognize the traits of narcissistic women and how they operate. • Set firm boundaries to protect yourself. • Seek the support and healing you deserve. • Rebuild your life with confidence and self-worth. If you’ve ever been manipulated, controlled, or made to feel like you were never enough, this book is your lifeline. It’s time to break free from the silence and step into your power. Get ready to discover the truth and take back control.Radio Interview Feb 8th, 2025...Host: So, tell us about your book Yes, Women Can Be Narcissists Too. Graham: Yes, Women Can Be Narcissists Too is a book I wrote based on my personal experience of being in two consecutive relationships with narcissistic women over the span of twenty years. It’s a story that isn’t often told because society tends to believe that narcissism is a male trait, but the reality is, women can be just as manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive. Host: What do you hope people take away from your book? Graham: My hope is that this book serves as a wake-up call and a source of hope. I want people-especially men-to realize that they are not alone, that they are not imagining it, and most importantly, they are not powerless. There is life after narcissistic abuse, and with the right knowledge and support, they can rebuild their confidence and move forward. Host: Why do you think this topic is still considered taboo? Graham: There’s a societal stereotype that men are always the strong ones, that they can’t be victims of emotional abuse. Talking about narcissistic women challenges that belief, which makes people uncomfortable. But the truth is, narcissism is not gender-specific. Men can and do suffer in silence because they’re afraid of being judged or not taken seriously. That’s why this book is so important-to break the silence and shine a light on an issue that’s been ignored for too long. Host: What inspired you to finally write this book? Graham: Ironically, it was my current partner who inspired me. She’s also a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and through our shared experiences, we’ve found healing and strength together. She encouraged me to share my story so that others could benefit and find hope, just as we did. Writing this book was a way to turn years of pain into something meaningful-to help others recognize, escape, and recover from narcissistic abuse.
